What's the typical etiquette for asking someone to be your Maid of Honour? Do you wait until you pick a date for the wedding? Should you send an invitation and wait for a response?
What if they are standing right in front of you? What's the protocol then?
My cousin Tiffani visited me two weekends ago for a girls' night. There we were chatting in my kitchen, me sipping on sangria while she chopped vegetables and prepared our post-gym snack. I laughed and pointed out how ridiculous it was that she was doing all the work, to which she replied, "That's just my personality."
She then asked if I thought about who might be in my wedding party. Inside I'm thinking, "Oh, Tiffani, only since I was 11..." I refilled my glass and popped the second biggest question of my engagement: "Will you be my Maid of Honour?"
Cue hugs and more sangria sips. She said yes!
Not only will she be the most fun, coordinated, and drama-free Maid of Honour ever, she knows me better than I know myself sometimes. We're cousins, but we've always been more like siblings. She taught me all the swear words and introduced me to the concept of French kissing before I even wanted to try it. She's been my confidant through every relationship and every heartbreak, offering brutally honest advice that only a true sister could provide. She was one of the very first people to get the juicy details on my mysterious new man. We were poolside in Dominican the week after I met Roger for the first time. Somewhere between the Coco-Locos, Strawberry Daiquiris and Mama Juana shots, Tiffani and I came to the agreement that I absolutely had to see how this love story played out.
It was an exciting moment in my kitchen. To celebrate, we sipped on more sangria and threw in a couple gummy bears for good measure.
There's only one thing better than wine-soaked fruit... wine-soaked gummy bears!
Now that I have an official Maid of Honour the wedding planning can (almost) begin! Roger and I are waiting for the right time to start the official Excel spreadsheet-a-thon and when that time comes I will also be breaking out this guidebook:
This book is amazing! My former coworkers gave it to me as a gag gift last year, pre-engagement. I had it hidden in the depths of my bathing suit drawer for months. It includes everything you need to know about planning a wedding--how to budget, what to wear, who pays for what, photography tips, procession lines, best practices for addressing invitations, seating plans, how to plan your honeymoon, etc., etc. It's like Pinterest in hard copy.
I'm so happy to have Tiffani by my side as my Maid of Honour! 🙂 I promise not to be a Bridezilla and I vow not to make you wear a dress you don't like. I cannot make any guarantees on abstaining from midnight phone calls; you always have been and forever will be my sounding board when I need your advice!