I became engaged in March and since then I've had a million changes of heart--not about the getting married part, but about the planning process. If I've learned anything at all about wedding planning it's this: Never say never to new or unconventional ideas.
To be perfectly honest, I was never that little girl that dreamed of her wedding day; I simply aspired to one day be married--hopefully to someone enormously gorgeous and all-around wonderful. While some girls dressed in princess gowns and imagined their knight in shining armour greeting them at the altar, I was more inclined to assume the role of domestic goddess during a game of House. Prior to this year, I had no idea what colour I wanted my bridesmaids to wear or what song I wanted the DJ to play during my first dance with my husband.
So now that I myself am the bride-to-be, I am open to any and all ideas that come my way. Pinterest and The Knot have been a godsend--so many pretty pictures, so many inspirational links! I also have my girls sending me Pins left, right, and centre.
I thought it'd be fun to compile a list of common wedding customs and write my current thoughts on them. It'll be interesting to see if I've changed my mind in a year's time. I feel as though wedding styles are always evolving; what's out of style today may be the hottest thing next season. So here's my take on a few things:
Yes! But for all the ladies, not just the single ones.
No! (Roger says yes.)
A Stripper at the Bachelorette:
French-kissing at the ceremony:
Seeing each other before the ceremony:
Maybe! (More on that below.)
Sleeping in the same room the night before the wedding:
Having your dog in a few wedding party pics:
Yes! (Only if he wears a tux.)
Writing your own vows:
Yes! (I will not budge on that one.)
Veil or headpiece:
I'm leaning more towards a dressy headband.
Keeping the top of the wedding cake for your first anniversary:
Trash the dress:
No way. No way. No way.
After the first consultation with our photographers, I started analyzing wedding traditions more and more. The moment of revelation before the ceremony--that split second when the bride and groom see each other before she walks down the aisle--that's always been a very special moment in my heart and a beautiful one to be captured on film. It seems like the quintessential moment of true love, but the more I think about it, maybe it's not. Maybe that intimate gaze would best be captured before the ceremony and in front of less people. "The First Look" photo session was never something I had considered until last Friday. Now I'm weighing out the pros and cons of pre-ceremony couple photos and quite truthfully, I may have become a believer in straying from the norm.
We're thinking of having our bride & grooms photos taken before
the ceremony. We'd take more photos with our families, wedding party, and guests after
the ceremony, as per usual.
- We'll be bright-eyed and bushy-tailed from just getting ready for the day
- The photographers will have our full attention
- Our guests will still get to experience their "first look" at us
- We'll get to spend more time with our guests at cocktail hour
- Tunders can pop in for a shot or two (but stay at least 2 ft away from my dress)
- We won't be adhering to "tradition"
- What would my mother think? (Mom, what do you think?)
"The First Look" is looking pretty practical to me. We haven't made any firm decisions on photography for the wedding day, but we have committed to getting engagement photos done! Engagement photos were another thing I wasn't too gung-ho on; a teensy part of me thought that we could get my mom or my roommate to take a nice photo and we'd be good to go. Oh gosh, I'm so fickle sometimes. Now I'm over the moon about our upcoming photo session--I even bought a new dress in anticipation.
Here's a little sneak peek at what I plan to wear. I like the idea of a white sundress for the occasion--how matrimonial of me, right? I'm going to leave it up to Roger as to what he'd like to wear, although he does have a few plaid shirts that would match quite swimmingly.
I love the lace details. Very simple.
And so the wedding planning whirlwind begins! To mark the occasion, I'm going to make a new blog category where I'll post all wedding-related entries--please follow along in the fun! 🙂